Halloween is now upon us and with that a whole imaginary world of fear, scary monsters and zombies...But fear in our life is not just imagination, although it may be described in less gory words or pictures! Truth is, there are always situations we fear in our life, both personally and professionally, although time and experience teach us to manage and control it, is it such a bad thing to feel scared?
Actually, I believe that fear is a healthy aspect of our emotional intelligence. We need it in order to make better decisions, to act upon situations. Just like others emotions, as I have argued in a previous post, it should not be refused or hidden at all cost, nor should we feel embarrassed by it, as long as we recognise it, accept it and address it!
Here are three reasons why fear should not be considered an enemy of our personal and professional development, but quite the opposite, as it teaches us to be better people and better leaders.
When we feel fear, we begin to investigate our emotions at a deeper level. Fear forces us to ask: why do I feel this way? What is at stake? Where is this fear rooted in...? That actually means that we become much more self aware, and we also begin to appreciate more our past, our journey and any possible limiting belief we may hold. Hopefully we also begin to question whether they are justified and raise our own self-esteem in the process.
When we feel fear we also ask the question...What would happen if? So we build different scenarios and we open ourselves up to different opportunities. We also manage risk better as by asking ourselves what fear is encouraging us or stopping us from doing we understand what we may gain or lose from addressing the root cause or ignoring it.
When we feel fear but put ourselves all out nevertheless we actually push the boundaries between comfort and discomfort, the boundaries between known and unknown. This is the area of ourselves which is outside our conscious knowledge and often that of others too as nobody - not even our friends or closer colleagues - have seen us operating within it. As such this is an opportunity for learning, innovation and creativity. We may find we are capable of much more that what we expected if only given half chance!
So don't hide your fear as a negative or shameful emotion, rather seek to understand it in order to turn it into a positive experience that will enhance your leadership capabilities!
What is your experience of fear? What fearful emotions have you experienced and resolved? I would love to hear your comments!
Alessandra is an experienced mentor, business coach, consultant and strategist. She supports individuals - especially women - and organisations in achieving their potential through customised, outcome driven interventions . You can find out more about Alessandra here and contact her by email here.